DEAR ALEX,Is there a reasonable answer? A tactful way to approach these editors? A painless way out of this maze?

Congratulations on the eight paying publications! That is an accomplishment and shows there are plenty of editors who think your work is worth paying for. I’d tell the others what you told us: You neglected to mention a time limit. Say you’re sorry about that and give them a date in the very near future when you will begin invoicing them. Then see what happens. You might be pleasantly surprised to find out that some of them step up and start paying. Some may cancel, but, in that case, you’ll still have plenty of tear sheets for your portfolio from those who do pay, plus you’ll still have your dignity – which admittedly, pays exactly as much as a freeloading publication, but without the resentment.
Your conundrum has been the story of my writing life! I started my self-syndication journey by pitching to my hometown paper. The editor told me, “We don’t have money in the budget right now,” but offered to publish my column anyway. I agreed, believing that they would eventually pay. Instead, he took my column for over two years without paying a dime. Going forward, I offered a free trial, and made it clear that I would expect payment after that. Sometimes it worked. Sometimes it didn’t. Military-base newspapers, whose readers are my target audience, are not permitted to pay freelancers. I decided I would insist on payment from all civilian newspapers. I offered my column for free to all military-base newspapers, so that I could gain name recognition in the military community.
Is there any way of tracking your column’s readership with that paper? Those would be good facts in your favor. If you don’t have that, approach the editor and have a conversation that covers “I’ve been featured in your paper for a while now, and I want to discuss the possibility of being paid.” No shame to that! HAVE THE CONVERSATION.
